Finding a guy is one thing, but keeping him around is another. Both are important steps. But what are some of the secrets of women who find men willing to commit? This is not an all-encompassing guide, but it may be a start in helping you develop deeper relationships.
Love yourself. If you’re not happy with who you are then don’t expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don’t like.
Know your role. An important part of any relationship is making both partners aware that they have a crucial and indispensable role to play.
Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like women who are stable, and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a “drama queen” in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
Show confidence. Be sure of yourself, and ready to tackle whatever is before you. Many men love confident women. How can a man not feel privileged when he earns the esteem of a woman who values herself so highly?
Show endearment with class. A certain look. A scratch on the back. A soft kiss. Nothing “clingy” or inappropriate.
Appreciate a man’s strengths. And tell him so, even if he’s already prideful. Then support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or berating him when he is at his worst.
Be fun. This sounds basic, but it’s a critical factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor. Don’t be uptight or negative.
Overflow with joy. Women who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be irrepressibly attractive to men.
Glow. If the warmth of your heart is written all over your face, and your feelings for your guy show in the sparkle in your eyes, you will melt him. This is what removes all doubt – it’s the important “silver bullet”.
Practice humility. A humble person is not someone who downplays herself; it is a person who controls her ego and shows a genuine interest in others.
Date. It may not be obvious, but you actually have to go out on dates with a man and commit to a relationship before he will propose. The term “date” in modern culture is vague and sometimes redefined as something more than it is. Simply converse with a man and get to know more about each others’ lives.
Don’t assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to reevaluate the direction of your relationship. Sometimes allowing a man to lead the direction of a relationship is in-line with your desires. Try it, you’ll like it.
Remember that romance runs both ways. If you want to be respected and treated as an equal, do the same for him. Be romantic. Make him want to be in this relationship. Don’t be a cheapskate. Men often enjoy romance too; pretending otherwise will only drive him away.
Show courage. Be first in asking a man for marriage, or even just a date. Try it, you’ll like it. Remember, simply asking “so when are we gonna get married?” is not a very romantic way to propose.
Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.
Set goals. Marriage itself only works when you’re moving forward, so it’s good practice to start now. Generally speaking, men like women who know who they are and where they’re going, even if some of the goals need to be changed a bit down the road.
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